Why Do We Fear Death?

According to the Divine, Death is simply a label humans use to describe transition from one state of being to another. We can apply it metaphorically to situations like: the death of a marriage, the transformative death of adolescence, or apply the cycle of death and rebirth to transitional periods like moving to a new location or job. Most often; however, we use the word death to mean no longer being in human form.

Death is often, especially in our Western death-phobic society, feared. It always makes me sad and a little frustrated when I think about the fear that surrounds our last transition made from the current body. The Divine has shown me that before we are born, we choose our family, friends, and life experiences that will help us learn and grow in ways we don’t understand once in body.

Every single person who incarnates into this world, will leave through death. Death is the final breath we take when we have achieved the goals of our current lifetime. It is nothing to be feared or avoided. It is a celebration on the other side because we made it, we did it, we succeeded! It is something we all have in common. We all eat, sleep, poop and most of us talk about those life happenings, right? So, why don’t we talk about death?

As people contemplate their own mortality, fears of not being good enough or being judged by God often arise which cause trepidation about what is yet to come. Many go through a life review, in an attempt to right the wrongs they feel they have committed. People have more difficulty crossing peacefully when they have is unfinished business. However, by the time a person is actively dying they are typically unafraid especially once they begin to see deceased loved ones and angels awaiting their arrival.

If an individual is emotionally and mentally prepared to die, where does the fear of death come from? From those of us who are left behind! The void you feel deep in your heart because the person you love can no longer be seen, felt, or heard by human senses is what causes fear of loss.

Thinking back over the thousands of clients I have worked with, I cannot remember one who enjoyed the experience of loss. It often conjures up deep-seated painful emotions that become seemingly too intense to bear. When you add the component of suffering onto the fear of loss, you have created a fear of death. It makes no sense to be afraid of the very transition or graduation in a sense that we came here to work towards. We fear the emotional pain of watching somebody we care about suffer, or for our own suffering.

When you add the loss we feel when our loved one is no longer with us to the trauma of suffering, death becomes feared instead of celebrated. Our minds question, “How could what is supposed to be a celebration feel so awful?” Unless you are one who is able to sense spirits, the mind will play tricks on you by trying to make you believe the person has not lived on. In some ways, we tend to buy into that idea because we may have seen the lifeless body that is clearly no longer the person we want it to be. Our minds want us to believe that there is no afterlife, which of course feeds the fear of death.

Once, you have bought into this fear, it is best to break it apart into the components discussed above: Which do you fear most…suffering, loss, the intangible? Start with the most feared and ask God to bring peace to your heart, to resolve and heal all past lives associated with painful death, and to restore the fear with Divine love. Remember, we all die and its okay!  Peace 🙂